CHAPTER 1: A SWITCH REVELATION

It’s February 7th, 2012. A week away from what Hallmark says is the most romantic day of the year. Today, it had a session with “slave” and realized its dominant side. Oh, how it loves to please its Master.

Yes, in the BDSM community, there are submissives and there are slaves. What is the difference? Typically, the slave is marked in some way to show that it is the property of another. For it, well, I wasn’t overachieving about many things, but as a submissive, I wanted to show my Dominant, my “Master”, just how much it wanted to belong to him. On this day, it had an opportunity to play with a slave. This was a challenge because the slave had much more experience but more importantly, the task was to be the Dominant. Essentially I was “switching.”

A Good Bottom knows how to Top and a Top Understands Submission.

This wasn’t the first time it had been asked to “top.” However, like many things in life, the significance of our actions sometimes takes time to process. The exercising of new muscles can feel uncomfortable for the best of us. A mental gymnastics that takes every effort and grace when you have the vulnerability of another in your hands. There is a self-awareness that there is a discovery of something deeper within you being revealed. In its case, the development of its slave self. The confidence it achieves knowing itself, even if on the face, being a slave would be thought of as being meek. On the contrary.

The best power exchange connections are those in which everyone playing understands what it feels like to switch. BDSM is its own world, that goes much deeper than any sex toy or sex shop can satisfy. A fly on the wall isn’t getting off just on the sexual aspect of a power exchange encounter, rather it is the depth of field between the two people engaged. A slow build-up. A long finish. An art where you move in and out of different consciousness. The mind is, after all, the biggest and most effective aphrodisiac.

It was a slave to one Master, submissive to those he required it to bottom. In this particular memory, finding its

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