AWAKENING OF ONE BODY
I have been single for a long time. I have worked for myself since 2012 My last real vanilla relationship was in 2008. Yes, I’ve had a few affairs, one that actually got quite serious and threw me through a loop. Love and passion can definitely do that. I think I am still learning and growing from that relationship, actually.
In fact, 90% of the time. its, me, myself and I. Before you feel sorry for me, know that my life has not been boring or unfulfilling, and I can say with a smile, that I have mastered the art of being alone and loving myself.
So…if you find yourself alone and feeling listless or insecure, fear no more. Let me show you the path to the fulfilling single way.
Get Comfy Being A Little Uncomfy.
It doesn’t matter if you have been alone for a day or over a decade, like me. The solitary life can definitely be an adjustment. There is a stillness associated with it that may feel awkward at first. Kinetic energy works best when its has something to bounce between. We associate that movement with productivity. Perhaps its just because we have accountability in the other person just being there. There is no doubt that is a truth in that but being alone gives you one an inner strength, that can only be practiced from having nowhere to look but inside of yourself.
The Silent Movie of Your life: Observance and Listening.
A level of acute awareness that can catalyze deeper understandings and solutions. The idea that collaboration of two or more brains are the only way to innovation and problem-solving is reductive reasoning. Being a wallflower can be just as exciting. I guarantee you will find yourself building an Olympian mind – one that see things from even the most awkward of angles.
Find Fun in a Party of One.
If you haven’t dined alone, do it. Be even more daring and leave the book, notebook and phone at home or at least, off the table. Try just being in the moment with yourself. I bet if you just focus on your food, drink and the atmosphere surrounding you, the moments you come away with might surprise you. I believe this is when we are at our best in the development of creativity and inspiration.
Enjoying a solitary life doesn’t mean you don’t have support systems. It doesn’t mean you are social awkward or missed out an opportunity to for a a more fulfilling life. I would rather not have someone sum me up my perceived value by marital status or occupation but I know its too tempting for many!
There is One thing You Need People For: Sex.
Masturbation should always be done a deux. Yes, it is easy to give yourself a wank at any time. While that powerful orgasm you give yourself may feel so rewarding in the moment, there is nothing better than being close to another body in that post-orgasm glow. The ability for that person to help you to your climax or to just be there as you turn to them with that self-satisfied smile. Ok, I will concede to facetime as a last resort too.
The Choice is Yours, Not Theirs.
I don’t mean for that to sound flippant but we all have had a time in our lives where me muttered, ” I had no choice.” That is bullshit. It is true that not all our choices are immediately impactful, there is always a decision tree involved.
Finding wholeness and likeability within oneself is something we all strive for, right? Otherwise what is the point to personal development? The next time you find yourself alone, revel in it. You may be delightfully surprised in the power of one. It makes the glow and energy from inside out that much more palpable when your face to face with someone.